Do you ever feel invisible?

Zdieľam texty z newslettrov Claire Zammit, ktoré ma zaujali.

I'm writing today about something incredibly personal and vulnerable that I experienced before I discovered Feminine Power.

For years, I struggled to get traction in my own career, and to impact others with my gifts.

I'd launched my coaching practice and was offering workshops, only to end up coaching people without charging them and begging my friends to come to my events because only two paying participants had enrolled!

I didn't feel that what I had to contribute was seen or valued by others or by the world, and I was deeply confused as to whyin spite of my intelligence, hard work and commitment-I wasn't having more success or being offered more opportunities.

I deeply sensed my own potential to teach and to serve, and when I would go to conferences and events, I'd hear the speakers share their ideas and I'd have a knowing that I, too, had something valuable to contribute.

I also doubted myself and feared that maybe this belief was a bit arrogant because I hadn't really had any external validation that it was true.

It was just a knowing I had inside me.

I wanted to express my voice and yet I was constantly victimized by the belief that no one really saw me.

I had the whole story figured out about why I wasn't getting the opportunities I so desperately longed for.

But then, I discovered one of the key principles of creating from Feminine Power:

Before moving into action, first, identify and release your inner barriers to receiving what you desire to create.

As a result of this practice, I was able to identify the specific ways I was showing up that were actually the source of my experience...

And it was nothing short of a revelation.

OMG, I could instantly see that I wasn't getting the opportunities I wanted because I was actually disappearing myself!

It turned out I had a core belief that I was essentially invisible, and my way of showing up was that I would disappear my own thoughts and feelings, and just mirror other people completely.

Whenever I was with another person, they wouldn't be able to see me, because they were simply have a deeper experience of themselves in the mirror I was holding up for them.

No wonder I was creating this chronic experience of invisibility for myself everywhere I went!

So after working with these Feminine Power practices, I was able to get connected to the truth of who I was, I took responsibility for showing up in new ways that were reflective of that truth.

And the truth was that I do have valuable contribution to make.

The truth was that other people can't know my feelings, needs and desires unless I share them and make them visible.

I'd spent my whole life waiting to be discovered-waiting for other people to find their way into my world and intuit the value of what I had to contribute, and then respond to my needs and desires.

So to break through this inner glass ceiling, I gave up this old way of showing up and instead took responsibility to begin to presence myself in all my relationships and in the world.

I took the weaker part of me that had been stuck for so long and connected it to the deeper part of me that knew how much I had to offer...and I became responsible for generating my own visibility.

And then a really wild thing happened...

A few weeks later, I was hosting a dialogue series-our first "Women on the Edge of Evolution" conference-and the first person I had to interview was Dr. Jean Houston, co-founder of the Human Potential Movement and a truly amazing woman.

I was so in awe of her, but I knew my challenge was, as always, to show up in ways that were consistent with the truth of who I was.

So that meant letting go of my old way of playing small and simply mirroring people to try to please them.

I knew I had to be a gracious host, of course, and offer some of that mirroring and reflection, but I also needed to be fully engaged in the dialogue as my complete empowered self.

About halfway through the interview, Jean said, "Claire, I have to speak to you privately tomorrow. Call me on my private line."

So of course I did, though I was a little nervous as I dialed the phone.

When she came on the line, she proceeded to reflect back to me what she'd seen during the previous day's interview, and it turned out that she'd really seen me.

She said "Claire, you have a great destiny, a great calling of leadership in the empowerment of women, and I want to support you and stand with you. Come visit me in Ashland."

So I did, and she proceeded to share with me a much larger vision for me than I was able to see or hold myself at that time...

Then she opened up her rolodex and called and emailed every powerful, influential woman leader she knew and encouraged them to join me in the "Women on the Edge of Evolution" conference.

And out of that, the platform for Feminine Power expanded as I created my company, Evolving Wisdom, that has led to greater and greater levels of impact and contribution, reaching millions of people.

All of this was generated out of that moment when I brought who I truly was into alignment with how I was showing up in the world... and everything changed.

Now, it's your turn.

I couldn't generate my visibility, my contribution, or my impact from inside my old pattern, and neither can you.

And what's at stake in breaking through these barriers is nothing less than your entire life and destiny.

If you're struggling to create anything in the domain of the feminine (those things that are not predictable or controllable such as love, connection, creativity, higher contribution, impact, belonging-the things we're most yearning for!) your primary obstacle is not outside of you, it's within you.

It's actually a core belief you hold about yourself, about others, and about the possibilities of your life.

This is your inner glass ceiling.

And unless you learn to break free from it, no matter how hard you try, you're not going to be able to succeed.

I'll explain why in just a moment, but first, I have a question for you:

Who or what are you blaming as the reason you can't be successful in particular areas of your life?

I've polled the women I've worked with over the past several years, and if you're like 85% of them, you're blaming your circumstances (even though you might know better!).

You say to yourself: "I don't have enough time, I don't have money. I don't have enough education."

"There are no good men out there."

"The economy is bad."

"People don't want to spend money on coaching services."

And while there might be some truth to these external constraints...

You're never going to find your power by blaming your circumstances.

14% of the women I polled knew there was something internal that was creating their experience, but simply blamed it on some psychological shortcoming.

When you're not successful socially or professionally, maybe you say things to yourself like, "I just have low self esteem."

Or when you sabotage yet another relationship opportunity, you might think, "Oh, there are my father issues or my mother issues coming up again."

Many of us kind of know where our patterns started and explanations for why we have many of the issues we do, but none of that analysis allows us to to liberate ourselves from those limiting patterns and issues.

The bottom line is that you're never going to find your power by blaming your psychology, either.

The truth is that life isn't happening to you, even though this is perpetually how it feels...

Life is responding to you.

Your core beliefs and assumptions about who you are or what is or isn't possible, create the ways you show up in your life day after day.

And you are probably showing up in ways that generate evidence that reinforces the truth of these stories.

Life and other people don't mirror and match your beliefs, they mirror how you show up.

The problem is that in the areas where you're struggling to be successful-love, creativity, career-you're actually showing up from the parts of you that are wounded or stuck in these old stories of your powerlessness, non-possibility and limitation.

You can't attract love on top of a deep, inner sense of being unlovable...

You can't generate success on top of a deep feeling of being unworthy...

And you can't make an impact on the world if you secretly fear you have nothing worthwhile to contribute...

There's absolutely no faking it, and here's why:

Because inside these old beliefs you will interpret and respond to events inside these filters.

You might respond by making bad decisions, repelling people trying to support you, missing opportunities right in front of you, over investing in the wrong things and so many more unconscious behaviors that create evidence for the truth of the old story.

The foundational practices that we work with in our upcoming Feminine Power Essential Course for the Awakening Woman support you to forge an unshakable connection between the weakest part of you-the part that feels powerless and is stuck in these old stories-and the part of you that knows better...

The part that is wise...

That has access to resources...

That has perspective...

The part of you that can show up powerfully for other people and offer support, counseling and insight.

When you discover how to make the connection between these two parts of you, you'll effortlessly be able to show up in ways that are aligned with a deeper truth about who you are...

And once you do that, your "inner glass ceiling" will completely shatter!

Within a matter of weeks, your life can begin to completely reorganize and other people will begin to reflect back to you the strong and capable person you truly are.

And it will be a little shocking at first, because you'll realize that the old story you've been carrying around for decades was never even true.

This is one of the KEY shifts in your orientation to the process of creating and manifesting with Feminine Power that works at the level of self-actualization.